Gee I am so sorry for you and your son....I guess I am different than than everyone else...I would work on the quilt as fast as I could with prayers in tow.....I hear it is so hard to be married to a military man they almost have to have a split personality....one so tough and mean and the one with a loving family....it is so hard to adapt....I have had a Nephew and a Nephew in law......and one marrige gone and one is always working on there relationship.....so I will pray to that all turns out for the best and please finish your quilt with prays in tow....my 2 cents....good luck