Sorry about the loss of your daughter. My husband was Navy for 30 years. During a re dedication of a battleship he was stationed on, the National Anthem was played. Hardly anyone was singing. My cousin was a guest of ours. She started singing. Eventually those around us started as well. Later she told me - that is our nation's song. We should never give up a chance to sing it. You don't need to sing well, just sing. And I followed her advice after that and sure enough, those around me did too. Not well mind you, but at least I knew the words. :-D