My hubby was in the Navy for 20 years. As a Navy wife I learned to be very independent and I enjoyed moving every few years and meeting new people. I didn't enjoy the fact that he was gone 80% of the 20 years. And now he is deceased, a service related death caused by exposure to asbestos in the ship's engine rooms. One of my sons was in the Navy for 4 years and another was in the Army for 4 years. Neither wanted to make it a career.