Ritasmom, I sympathize with you not being able to say what is in your heart. In my 1st marriage, it was always about him and everything that was wrong was my fault. To this day, he tells our daughter what a perfect husband he was and that I am a lousy mother. He refused any counselling - to me that spoke volumes and I finally left. He got the single life he had been living and I got AWAY! To get off the hook, you could tell him that you will honor your daughters decision and you wish him the best. Good luck.
My guys took me to eat Chinese for my birthday and I have to say I did really well. My tummy has shrank to dismal capacity - so I can't stuff myself! What a great thing. I am down around 22# since my last birthday, but gained 21# to hit my highest of 181 in November. I was down to 171# when we started the 17-day diet. So far, I am down 3.5# for the month. I will not let tomorrows weigh in freak me out.
MJ, my health is the #1 motivation for me to lose weight.
I am off to the sewing machine right now.
hugs