I found an excellent resource at the library recently. Greneen Roth's cd set "Food is Food and Love is Love"
http://www.amazon.com/When-Food-Love...0131011&sr=1-3
I'm finding it very enlightening. She's big on the diets dont' work bandwagon. And we need to listen to our body's.
I'm a big emotional eater and find that I eat to push down negative emotions or those feelings of not being good enough or pretty enough or smart enough, etc...
It's expensive so check and see if your library has it, or get it from interlibrary loan.