Just to add to all the great advice you have already had.
It is quite rare in this part of the world to see married parents.. very rare.. personaly I think marriage is probably ' out of date' !! but each to their own.. one of my daughters age 40 has never married. she has had 2 partners and had her daughter with the present one.. I have often expressed my fears about making it ' legal' for her and Holly's sake. should anything happen to Tony.. but I think a lot of the reason for not being married is the expense... I feel for any couple right now trying to get a place to live.. and save to get married.. its not easy these days.
I do Volunteer work for an organisation.. we help young parents trying to bring up children..on benefits.. poor housing conditions , child abuse.. partner abuse.. we offer practical support to these families.... without judgment....totally confidentail at all times...
All of us, when out, see parents with children.... and, at times see behaviour that we ourselves would consider wrong... I know myself I have been in the supermarket and seen mothers getting really angry with out of control kids, that are screaming and throwing tantrums to get their own way, and it does go through my mind... ' my kids were never like that '
We all bring up our children to the best of our ability and hope we get it right...there always someone who will disagree with how we do it... and I am sure we could have a great post on here about that!!!
My kids tell me they all had a wonderful childhood, and many of the things we did when they were small have been adopted by my daughters,, they have always come to me for advice when the babies arrived ( even at the small hours, phoning me ask ' why is he/she still crying mum?')
Do what you think is right with your daughter.... make the decisions you feel are right... but at the same time enjoy her.. time passes so quickly and before you know it.. she will be at school and making her own decisions.. with your guidance and protection to take her into adulthood.
You have read all the advice regarding your smoking. I am a smoker but... having 5 grandchildren.. who have never yet seen me smoke....I am very concientous around others and their opinions...we live in a Bungalow and only have 5 rooms.. I only smoke in the kitchen.. the back door is always open.. even in Winter
Dont let the opinions of others get you down. forget it and move forward, there will always be someone that tells you your doing it wrong!!!! most likely one who has not had children!!!!