Remember these things: wait 3 years to have a child(gives time to get to know each other). Don't ever bring up past arguments. When they are done they are DONE! Your spouse should be the first one you talk to about problems even if he/she is the problem. Don't go runnin to MOM or SIS or Brother. Talk dont yell. Try not to go to bed mad. I think in 20 years it has only happened twice. Make sure you tell each other every morning and night that you love each other. You never know when it will be the last time you see them.