its all about respect. i always consult with my husband before making an important decision. that is what marage should be. i think there would be alot less divorce and unhappyness in this world if wives would ask ther husbands opinions and respect them. and for the record i am happily married do not feel down troden and am deeply in love with my husband even though i ask his permision and opinion on things.
buying a home is a huge life changing decision and its very important to agree on it. it is better to live in a small apartment with contentment and love than is a big house with anger and distrust.
Originally Posted by FroggyinTexas
Originally Posted by Mamagus
If you have to get "his consent" to look at a brochure, you are not in a very healthy relationship.
Do you work? Are you both saving? Seems to this old woman, that you have to do more than have a dream and if he isn't interested in your dreams then you have a huge problem.
Ditto! I am frustrated beyond words by women who let men decide whether they can have a pet, paint the living room, rearrange the furniture. There is a big problem in those relationships. I took a bus tour several years ago and sat with three recent widows, all of whom were remodeling their kitchens and buying new furniture that "my husband wouldn't let me have." I recently met a woman at an automobile repair shop. She was cradling a puppy. "My husband wouldn't ever let me have a dog," she said. "I got this puppy a week after the funeral."
Thirty or more years of living with a despot does not appeal to me. I don't believe I would wait for him to die before I got the house I want. froggyintexas