well said.
I was married to DH for 34 years before he passed last summer.
1. Talk about it, whatever it is, talk it out.
2. There are some things you will never agree on. Agree to disagree and on which way you will handle it then leave it alone.
3. When you get into a fight, figure out if you are arguing just so you can win, or if the point is that important. Will it matter 6 months or 2 years from now? If no....quit fighting. If yes, then figure out how to fight nicely about it and make your point. Then see #1 and #2.
Enjoy each other!
Originally Posted by nycbgirl
I have been happily married for nearly 16 years and what has served me well is the thought: We are in a marriage and it's give and take and it's never 50/50 it's 100/100 on each side and if we have a disagreement I always remember the goal is not to "win" the disagreement but to settle it.