I am about to celebrate my 25 anniversary. This is my 2nd and his 1st. I had to learn not to play games. Yes women play games. I had to say what I mean, even if it hurt his feeling or mine. My husband came from an abusive home. I say he grew up in a cave because he didn't know how to deal with people. the other thing that has helped our relationship. Separate bank accounts. Even if only a small amount is added each paycheck.