NancyG said it well --- sometimes gift cards are a good choice, as in the previously-mentioned couple that bought a fixer-upper. But, I am sure they would enjoy a handmade touch for their new home to treasure for years to come. Its nice to give people an idea of what you would like/need, but it should ultimately be up to the giver to decide what they will do, if anything.
Not sure what's been happening lately, but its a trend that I don't like. Two of my nephews look at me as a source of income. Well, after two years of no "thank yous" I have stopped sending anything. Wonder if they'll get the hint?