My husband and I will be married 25 years in just a few weeks,August. We have had two kids, two dogs, 10 fish, moved 4 times to different states and still love each other.
Our rule has been talk about everything and discuss a problem when it occurs. Do Not go to sleep angry, talk all night if you have to.
We have been working at our marriage all the time, 100% each, as others have said no 50-50 (that's only for raffles!)
We each do things that we like seperately and some things we do together.
I don't drive so my husband has taken me to quilt shops and quilt shows and he gets to go to motorcycle swap meets and I will tag along. Doing what your spouse loves can bring you closer.
I am no expert I just know that we love each other and still laugh together and enjoy time together even when we are not talking.