I'm sorry that so many of you are having difficulties through this stage of your lives.
Just as a counter-note -
I menopaused out at 42 and the only things that "happened" were:
My periods stopped
I was more emotionally stable
I would get warm flashes - (and still do at 70) - more in the line of taking a sweater off and putting a sweater on sort of thing than a major inconvenience.
And my feet are warmer at night more of the time now than before.
I did not take any medications or supplements during this phase.
Just wanted to let you know that not everyone has an agonizing time of it.