Always remember why you fell in love with him to begin with - he will carry those qualities to his death most likely :). Never, ever let the word divorce (short of infidelity or (real) abuse) enter into your vocabulary. Never lie to one another - not even little white ones... be one another's best friend, spend time together, listen, compromise, don't argue about the kids in front of the kids, family time is important, know the kids will one day be gone - the two of you will always be there... :)