Did these feelings of abandonment, anger and loss just start when she became a teen or has she been troubled since she was 2 1/2? It seems she's making choices based on her own inability to cope with life in general. I hope she finds help soon.
A good book I found in a Christian bookstore yrs ago is called "Life after Life" by Dr. Moody. It helped a young friend when her brother and 18 others died when a missle hit the USS Stark. It also helped her parents which was a plus. It's about people who died and were told it wasn't their time so they came back and told what it was like on the other side. I don't know if this angle would help her but it's a wonderful book.
I hope she doesn't get in the habit of blaming others for her behavior and takes responsibility for her choices.