Gifts are to come from the heart, not obligation. I would just go on and since no one has told you, thats the way it is. Oh, well if you had told me I would have made a quilt like I did for the others, but you never told me...I know that I may be in the minority, but sometimes you have to just do the tough love thing and it sounds like it's time. Just my ho. Good luck with whatever you choose do do!