My dh and I were married at age 18 (42 years ago). We spent our first 21 years of marriage with the US Army. We were very lucky because Vietnam was the only war he had to participate in. We had to depend on each other. Do not let anyone come between you. Especially not family. Treat the other as you want to be treated. Live by the Golden Rule. Be best friends, but give each other space to grow. Encourage each other to be the best they can be. Never say things you do not mean. If something is bothering you let the other one know. If you are the husband, don't always try to fix it. My DH went to a class a few years ago and learned this: Sometimes women just want to vent, not be told what she should or should not have done. Other times she wants you to help solve it. He now just asks me "Is this something you want me to fix or do you want me to just listen?" In my world it makes a difference. Try to look at things from the other's point-of-view, be nice to each other, talk to each other and keep your personnal life between you. Don't share it with friends. They always take sides and it never turns out well. Trust and take care of each other. Marriage is a precious gift. Live, Laugh, and Be Happy!