Ladies, ladies, ladies - when will we ever learn??? Non-quilters and people who aren't closely associated with quilters will NEVER appreciate the fruits of our labor. Expecting them to do so is simply unrealistic in today's society. They are often happier with a tacky "quilt" from Walmart that was made in China.
Think about this: Someone who doesn't know the history of the Mona Lisa or does not know what goes into creating a great painting, may well select a picture from the Dollar Store because it may be more pleasing to their eye. They don't know the history and are not educated in the method of the old masters.
You're needlessly stressing yourself out by presenting these people with your quilts. Better to give them a tacky little toy and a gift certificate to a baby store.