ok First off depending on what your daughter wants for a dress for flowergirls this may work for you ,I made one for my sil's wedding for me dd ,I used believe it or not a ladies silky nightie one with spaghetti straps made a lace overdress.Hope you understand that explanation)
this one is a online checklist
[url]http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-checklists.html?pcode=ioenhl&gclid=CMjXhIO8kKoCFUlx5Qodz2vXwg[url]
This one is printable
[url]http://www.keepandshare.com/htm/free_wedding_planning.php[url]
I know exactly what you are going thru as I am trying to help my dd plan her wedding .Best of Luck