I can tell you the same thing I told my grand-daughter:
"Don't sacrifice yourself on the altar of someone else's needs"
In other words....
"You gotta go where you wanna go,
Do what you wanna do
With whoever you wanna do it with.
You gotta go where you wanna go,
And do what you wanna do
With whoever you wanna do it with." (Mammas and Pappas)