The instant that you realize your mind is clear and you KNOW what you want to/need to do is amazing, isn't it. A focused mind is a powerful thing to behold. Who knows, if BF is meant to be, he will work within your parameters. If he leaves, then HE wasn't IT.
(BTW, I gave one of my BFs a similar speech. He decided to hang around and we have been married over 32 years.)
Happy trails.