I know what you mean. My babies are the most important thing to me. Years ago, when I was a newlywed, my hubby and I had an argument over something, don't remember what. He glared at me and said "You love that damned cat more than you love me". I looked him dead in the eye and replied very calmly and very seriously "Honey, when I've had you twelve years we'll discuss it". Had the cat another seven years. Can't say the same for the guy.