"Honestly, I'd thank her for being candid because it's sad when you've spent tons of work on a gift quilt that is not to the recipient's tastes. Awkward for them and disheartening for the artist (yes, we are, all folk artists!). Better to find out ahead of time."
You are right. It is better for her to have what she likes. And for me to spend my time and energy for someone who appreciates my particular tastes....Maybe like one for me?