oh- and lots of research online- you can get sooo many ideas. Hope picked a theme- Victorian, since the ceremony will take place at a Mansion (summer home for a local coal baron) and the reception is on the wrap around porch. There are about 90 people attending.
His Mom became Momzilla early on- refused to help or do anything. I had heard stories but got the shock of my life when I asked her to make cookies for the shower and she flat out said no. I asked again (not believing what I heard- thought she was joking) and she said she wasn't doing anything. I didn't know what to say- I look around the table and all the girls were looking at me with their teeth in their face (expression meaning- we knew but we never told you what she's like). And she has not done anything to help. I found out she's not happy with my daughter- she's taking away her son. She gave a token monetary gift- never made an effort to shop for something with meaning. Came right before the shower and left right after- didn't move from her seat- nothing. She had refused to do the rehearsal dinner until I told Hope to choose where she wanted it and I'd pay for that too.
Can't wait for this to be over. I'm the opposite momzilla- I want to help and she keeps saying she doesn't want money- they want to contribute too. I just don't want them to have debt after the wedding. It's the only wedding she will have and I don't want her to have regrets.