My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Sadly in these cases there is never a winner. And that includes the judge that needs to make the decision. I cannot imagine how hard it is on him/her to decide what is best for children. I know how hard it is, I went thru this myself after my divorce, my ex wanted the children, and of course I wanted them. It is never any fun for anyone. Luckily I won, but I wonder with todays standards if I would have : ), things are completely different than they were 40yrs ago.