The whole point of quilting is fulfilling those needs in you. If your current way of doing things is stressing to you try changing one small thing at a time. If trying to change anything about how you approach your craft would cause stress than Don't! If you create stress than what's the point? You'd just be taking the joy out of something you love. The right way to quilt is the process that works for you. You're an artist not a factory; you'll get done with a project when you get done and hopefully have enjoyed the journey!