In our family, we have a tradition. The gift is passed around for everyone to admire. Sure this takes time, but the reciepent(sic)also gets the impression of how well the gift is liked by all,or most of the guest, therefor an idea of worth. So a gift, that she might not have liked, now becomes a prize possession. Reverse psychology. Not to mention, that my sisters in law are not adverse to scolding her daughters, granddaughters or neices for their bad manners right then and there.