I give money to organizations I trust. I limit it to communities and countries that can be trusted. I give blankets and other crafty items to loved ones. Personal preference. Military folks are the exception. That's answering specific requests. Different situation.
But, yes, I have seen a number of negative commentaries over the years about people who give crafts in the wake of natural disasters. It's perceived as selfish, impractical and even delusional. Like the obsession can't be broken long enough to realize a starving kid thousands of miles away doesn't need an oven mit. People can be harsh but I don't think it should hinder anyone's donations (whatever they may be).
Please yourself. Opinions are just words.