Hi, Lois, I have skimmed many of the replies here and I think many have been right on and some ahave missed the point. I feel that regardless of the gift, small or large, from a store or home made, the receiver should show some appreciation. We were taught at home that you show gratitude for a gift even if you don't like it! The important aspect is that the giver thought enough of you to take the time to choose, buy or make something and get it to you for a special day. I did this year after year for my niece and nephew without a single word back from them. I feel that they are showing no regard or respect for me or my efforts. So they got scratched right off my list. Instead I buy gifts and make quilts for those I know appreciate them.
However, I understand how bad you feel, especially after creating such beautiful things! I empathize and suggest you might consider quilting for a local shelter, hospital or QOV.