Lori, the question of do you have allergies is already part of the template as well as what type of quilting means (i.e. fmq, embroidery). with my last few sp swap partners i have found that they may not completely fill out all of the inquiries on the template so it may leave you wondering what to get them or they may just not know how to answer all of the inquiries. i try to keep in mind that swappers are all at different levels in their skills and abilities so i try to keep my packages close to general use and personalize if given enough information.
what i do believe may be helpful is to include an inquiry (if not already there) as to what other type crafts do they participate in. one of my swap partners was not really a sewer/quilter but i didnt know what other type crafts she participated in to perhaps get specific things for her so i stuck to more general stuff in her package.
if the template is too specific it can create a lot of empty spaces because some will read it and think it doesnt apply to them and not complete the lines. the beverage inquiry may be good to add. i have received drink packets in various swaps i have participated in as small "tokens". knowing if it should be coffee or tea would be great if the sender would like to include that.
in the end i think it will just be sampling (aka trial & error) that will help to hone the template for the sp swap. more experienced quilters will want more specific information and the less skilled will have fewer answers to supply no matter how many inquiries are listed. i do read my swap partner's profile to glean any additional information about them & it is helpful when there.
you are doing a great job and it shows that you are thinking about how to do a better job by putting this question out there and asking those who participate in this swap to provide feedback. kudos to you. remember finding the right mix may require some tweaks here and there so hopefully you will make changes when necessary and be open to feedback when needed.