I made my DFIL a wonderful flannel quilt. When he passed away last year, I told my SIL to give the quilt to her grandson, as the two had a special and close relationship. She washed the quilt and gave it to her daughter for the grandson. My niece has put the quilt in a closet because she doesn't want it ruined. It was just a quilt made to keep my FIL warm in the nursing home. It wasn't all that special a quilt. I really wanted the greatnephew to be able to use and enjoy it. I was a little disappointed that he isn't allowed to have it. But once it is given, it no longer belongs to me, and I no longer have any say in how it is used. I just hate to think of it sitting on a closet shelf, when I know the young man would treasure sleeping under Papaw's quilt.