Originally Posted by bearisgray
oh, how sad for your friend
about perfection - it usually doesn't happen - do the best you can with what you know now - and that is as good as it's going to be right now
how big is this quilt going to be? if it won't be overly large, it might be simpler to just piece it and then layer it in the usual way and do stitch in the ditch quilting or tying it.
i've seen some very lovely, useful, comforting quilts that were tied
sometimes simple and done is much better than fancy and not done (says she who has many WIPS in the basement)
I agree with what everybody has said, but I love this, bearisgray, where you said, "about perfection - it usually doesn't happen - do the best you can with what you know now - and that is as good as it's going to be right now."
That's a realistic attitude, and should help you calm down, so you can do a better job. She will love it, no matter what. Only time is gonna help her feel a little bit better. Nothing is going to take away this pain, so don't be so hard on yourself. These things are too big, for one person to feel so responsible.