Gads, what a quandry.
1] You did what she asked and even more. You PAID for it to be quilted!!!
2] She doesn't seem to understand what all is involved. Like maybe only a few minutes and pennies. Is she aware of all the time and effort you have put into this already???
3] She has options:
- put a undercover spread or drape under the quilt top
- use it somewhere else
- hang it on a wall or drape it
4] I know she is a friend ..... but .... you are worth more than just doing her bidding to satisfy something she doesn't really need. IF she wants to reimburse you for the quilting and the rest of the work, then by all means do more. Be upfront and discuss this with her non-confrontationally but factually.
5] Friends don't really take advantage of each other in an unequal fashion. If she has done a whole lot for you .... more than just listening ... and you feel right about doing more ... then do it with the understanding that it is a gift of love from you to her.
Tough call.
I have made quilts for friends and have to remind myself they were gifts to be used as they saw fit more than once. I have never regretted what I have done with these quilts. Luckily none of them have become pet beds .... yet.
ali