Everything has been divided very equitably, totally 4-ways. When my other sister, my brother and I have met at the house clearing it out, if someone wants some little thing they just ask the others and there haven't been any problems at all. We're not grasping or arguing about a thing and my brother complained that he has problems getting us to TAKE something! The only things I have accepted is 2 quilts of my grandmother's, some of her embroidery, a couple of pieces of probably 50's kitchenware, and the others agreed that I could have the old pictures and documents and be the "family archivist" as I had an interest in it. I also received a ruby ring of my mother's as it is both of our birthstones. These things mean more to me than anything else. Oh, there is a small dresser I said I would take that I can store quilts in.
I WILL start having a dinner or lunch once a month and invite everyone over so that we don't drift apart.