Anytime my husband would think of mentioning what I spend on my toys, I just start asking about his latest camera purchase, and he goes away.
I worked most of the years we were married, and had my own income. Now, I don't, and my only income is a measly social security check. But all those years, I was and still am the person who cooks and cleans around here. No maid, no chef. Me. I don't think he can afford to replace me, so I buy what I feel we can afford, if I want it.
And if anyone else questions him about what I spend....he tells them it keeps me out of bars. What?