Or, to their favorite charity or one doing research into their kind of illness? Or, you do it when they pay you. Or just accept it, some people feel that if they have asked me to do something then it is their responsibility to pay.
Originally Posted by IrelandDragonQuilting
Perhaps ask them to donate any monies they wish to pay you to the local shelters or food banks? They value your time and know what it takes to make a quilt. You are a very kind and generous person to make them quilts and not want anything in return. Sure sounds like your two families are close and have a great relationship!