We found out in Sept 2008 that I had breast cancer, and I refused to deal with any of the doctors down here. I had taken a really bad fall in 1996, and they let me go for 7 months with a broken neck, even tho I kept telling them my neck hurt more than my shoulders did, but because it was a workman's comp injury...what did I know? Well, I knew enough that even tho I couldn't get a lawyer to listen to me, I did get the main WC reps not associated with Kmart to listen, and she sent me to a neurologist who found the broken neck. He told me something I already knew...that God must really love me - because one wrong move, and I would have been paralyzed. After that, I refused to go to other doctors down here, so I insisted on going to Washington U hospital in St. Louis. We live in Florida.
We were apart for most of a year, and he took care of his job, our house, two of our three dogs, called me every night, and worried himself to death about me. I was staying with my son and dil, and had Daisy with me. I went thru the chemo easier than most people do (God really does love me a lot), but being apart was really hard. I managed to make a couple of trips home, but it is a 3000 mile round trip, and I don't fly.
He arranged for the girls to stay with a friend, and he drove back with me before my surgery, and flew back, and because of that, he got a blood clot himself. But he never blamed me for any of the many problems that followed. I finally managed to arrange for my final treatments down here to take better care of him.
We may not be the perfect couple, but I don't know who comes much closer. We don't have a lot of money, but neither of us really wants a lot of stuff. He has his cameras, I have pretty much what I want, and if I really wanted something else, he would find a way to get it for me. Oh, and that cute little Molly.....she was my gift after all the chemo was over. He knew I really wanted her, so I got her.