I have my funeral prepaid, so all my DDs have to do is decide what else they want, since I have left extra money "on the account" so that if they want an urn, or box, or jewery, they can chose. Then, what money is left, is divided between them. My ashes, or the rest of my ashes are going to be dumped in the woods, unless they object. I won't be there so it is their choice.