The quilt is lovely - is there a way, through this quilt, that she can be helped to make friends that see past her "outward" appearance? She will deal with this all her life, in one form or another, as long as her weight is an issue? How about TEACHING her to quilt, then having her participate in a "kids quilt" workshop, where kids - boys and girls - make quilts for children who need them for other victims - loss of homes, abuse/domestic violence victims, etc.?