Practice, practice, practice. I cut a square 8-9 inches in size with batting and a back on it. Then I started by writing my name/ I did lower the feed dogs, had the darning foot on my machine and started . I did not adust any tensions or other things related to the machine. I have a Janome. I describe it like playing the piano. YOu have to get a rythum going. My sister for the life of her cannot do it. So guess it is natural for some people to be OK with it and others not. so don't give up just yet. Marge