I admit thank yous for presents are becoming a thing of the past, unfortunately. If you are there when they open the gift, then take a picture right away, otherwise, take a picture before you send the quilt. I'm guilty of forgetting to take pictures of quilts that are sent away and then I don't have a picture of that particular quilt to put in my quilt album. We need to teach the next generation to say thank you, regardless of what the "norm" is.