Wow! So much anger and frustration here today! Unfortunately there are men and women who are in relationships where one spouse is in control and there is little we can do except make sure our own relationships are in good order. DH and I have been together for almost 10 years and we do lots of things together, but each of us has our own personal hobbies. I quilt, he fishes. And neither of us will make a large purchase without the others consent. It just makes for less stress between us and I can come home with a few yards of fabric and don't feel like I have to hide it. He is my best friend and I plan to keep it that way. I don't ever use my cast iron skillet for anything but fried taters and onions!