Well we had 4 great kids & I stayed at home to raise them. I loved that & so did DH. But it meant that he take a great paying job that often took him from home for weeks. Now that the kids are in their own homes, I really do not like DH's job but he really does love his work. Therfore he never says 1 word about anything I buy regarding my hobby. He loves to go to Quilt Shows with me and drives me batty asking if I am sure that I am getting enough of whatever. We combined 2 rooms to make 1 huge quilting room and he bought a LA to use. He is really an enabler & I have to stop buying until I stitch up some of this stash! And what did I do? Showed him some kits I liked and he ordered them for me. If he even thinks I like something, he will order it for me. Which I do appreciate. He has hobbies and I never say 1 neg. thing about it. I think we all need to do something enjoyable. If either of us want something costly, we do tell the other one about it and ask "Do you mind?" Of course neither has ever minded but just having the courtesy & showing respect makes all the difference. It is not really funny but he does know me well and it would not be good for our checkbook if he ever told me not to buy something. But if we could not afford it, I would never dream of doing it. We had a longgggg discussion on all of this before we married. And we have both kept our word about it. Respect and treat each other equal. After all, a spouse is the other 1/2 of that marriage. I agree with the original poster of this topic. We women rock! But so does my man.