I'm so lucky & so is my husband.We have a partnership going & no one supports us better than each other.Although I'm a homemaker,our money is used as needed.Neither of us spends thousands without talking it over,but mostly ....he's free to buy what he needs/wants & same goes for me.DH worked with machinery all his life & knows you need the right stuff to do a job.
I've always been a stubborn,head strong woman & could never accept anyone trying to boss me....trying is as far as it'd go! Good for you on teaching the Grkids.We had a similar situation buying a car.DH told the salesman,"it'll be her car,in her name....nothing to do with me".
The young guy got in the spirit of things, asking DH if he'd like to have a cuppa while we looked at cars :D He's been our salesman ever since!
Originally Posted by clsurz
Originally Posted by Annaquilts
Some of us come out of settings we don't know better and marry people that are from a similar setting. My husband is very supportive but some of that for me needing permission and him feeling he has the right to say something still lingers. It all takes time.
I still today sometimes say I was born in the wrong decade. I'm 65 and hubby is 70 and I can remember even as a young child and as a teenager than as a young adult refusing to conform to that type of mentality. And in the end I won. We have been married going on 36 years and fortunately for him he has messed up only about half a dozen times all these years regarding such manners.
Now off to quilt I go!
I'm also educating my granddaughters not to allow any man to control them and I'm teaching my grandson's not to abuse women mentally, verbally or physical and to have respect for one another.
I want them to be strong in character and do what is right for them and others.
:-)