I have 6 three of each One thing we have found that while all are friendly and affectionate males are much more loving and willing to be held up until four years ago we never had a male was worried about that spraying thing but we found a three week old male kitten underneath a trailer we bought and brought him home he was so loving willing to be held anytime anywhere We had him fixed at a very young age vet says that took care of the spraying thing. NOw we have an equal amount and love either but our males just beg to be held and cuddled the females are alittle more standoffish