This is such interesting reading.
My husband is very supportive in my quilting..and pretty much in everything I do...now. Hasn't always been the case, but times change and so do people. We married young and (48 years ago) in those times most marriages were male dominated to a degree. I still have to quietly let him know that he is getting on that one nerve of mine when he makes a condescending remark. It usually works. We're both retired. We have joint accounts except for my quilting business and that is solely mine. I do all of the bill paying and record keeping. Once in a while when he gets on my nerves I tell him to please take over the bookkeeping and that pretty well does the trick. Neither of us spend a big amount of money without telling the other one. Marriage takes a lot of work and most of the younger kids today just walk away when the going gets tough. Sometimes you have to compromise and even back off.
I have a very dear friend who has been verbaly abused her whole life. First from her parents, then her husband and her children...and grandchildren. Her parents always put her down and called her "dummy" and her husband took that task over when they got married. Her children, and grandchildren treat her with disrespect...unless they want something. I'm always telling her that she doesn't deserve that type of treatment. She is one of the most giving and caring people you could meet. It hurts my heart too see her put down, but until one of them says some snarky remark in front of me I can't say anything. I just keep biding my time and one day I will get the opportunity to tell them. :hunf: