clsurz, I am so sorry you had such a negative experience that prompted you to violence. My husband have always discussed anything in question, and he usually offers more than I ask for. I have been blessed for over fifty-nine years by this wonderful man. I thank God for him every day! I have learned that communication (such as your conversation with your friend's husband) is much better than hitting someone. However, I wasn't in your shoes, so I am not criticizing~~ God bless you and keep you. :-)