After working in Nursing Homes for the past 30 yrs, you would be SHOCKED at how many families DO NOT provide for their parents/family members. I have donated 5 lap quilts each Christmas for the past 15 years and only for the ones that either do not have family or neglectful families. There are many that do not receive a Christmas present unless staff donate. And yes, some do disappear, but, so do chocolates, sweaters and other gifts(sadly enough). I don't make real fancy ones, usually log cabins or nine patch variations, because, the elderly don't want UGLY either. Sorry for the rant, but, wherever you donate to, there is always a chance of it being stolen. Once in awhile, we just have to listen to our hearts and donate, and try to ignore the threat of others dishonesty.