Male cats are more prone to urinary infections, I think. I have always thought males were sweeter, but our Abby was a love bug and had to be on you or carried around. Our Penny (Who Me? Kitty) is like that, too. She talks to you and just wants loving. Chloe (Bad Kitty) is only affectionate on her own terms. She hates being picked up, but likes being petted when she is on the ground. Be aware, too, that some shelters won't adopt out to homes with small children. We had to get manager approval because Ben is only 6. But he is so gentle with cats (doesn't like dogs) and he won them over. Let the kitty pick you.