Originally Posted by Izaquilter
I'll take one! And will love it to death! I've made everyone in my close family one or two quilts each. My cousin is a quilter, a sewer, a crafter. Not one time have I EVER received a home made item from her. I have friends I've made quilts for & I've got nothing ever from them either. I feel offended but don't know why. I've made quilted jackets & purses for 2 of my quilting friends & NOTHING in return. I must have kooties or something, I can't figure it out.
Ah, my dear, get the message already. They expect you to make all of the handmade quilts and things. On the other hand, they are busy making things for their own family, or at least someone else, or perhaps not making as much as you may think. Whatever the reason, you are not on their list, which should tell you something about where you are on their list in life. If I were you, I'd start cultivating friends who were more worthy of me. As long as you're willing to "do" for them, they will be more than willing to "take" from you. You're a "giver" and they are "takers" in life. Find some other givers, and you'll have more equal relationships. And if you feel you want to give quilts away to someone who would dearly appreciate them, try hospital bound veterans, hospice patients, women's shelters, and the like. There are tons of people out there who would adore a handmade quilt.
I knocked myself out make a perfectly beautiful, Queen-sized quilt for a wedding gift. Even let the bride pick out the pattern she wanted. A year later, it sits in a closet. If she only knew the blood, sweat and tears that went into making that quilt just perfect for my favorite nephew and his new wife, and making it in a pattern they picked out, and colors they picked out, and I swear they haul it out and put it on the bed when I visit, and then it goes back in the closet. I offered a number of different possibilities, including just money, for a wedding present. They didn't have to choose a quilt. Still ticks me off, so I know how you feel. It's a special gift, and you expect some kind of -- well --- at least an acknowledgement of your hard work!
I won't go on here. I feel bad vibes ascending. That's not good. I'm going to go and meditate them away. Peace be with you, and I hope you find your answers.